What is Your Money Story?

Updated: Feb 4

I love talking about money. To the point that I can make some people uncomfortable (something I am used to, admittedly). Money is one of those things that are “impolite” to talk about. I was definitely raised in an environment where that was the case. When I really think about it, there are a lot of things that made that list, and these all turned out to be things I love exploring and talking about as an adult (sorry, Mom!).

Well, since I asked the question in the title of this blog post, I will give you a little snapshot of my money story. I grew up as the grandchild of four Holocaust survivors. I am also one of seven children, and money always felt scarce. My parents were extremely hardworking, and yet there was always a sense in the home that we couldn’t have the things we really wanted.

I swore to myself that my children would never want for anything, and financial insecurity would be only a memory for me. I grew up, became an adult, and went through all the hard steps to make decent money and not be poor. Mission accomplished.

Or so I thought.

I learned fairly quickly that there is more to changing your money story than making more money. For years, I felt like I was banging my head against a wall. I kept saying to myself, "I’ve made it! I make 6 figures. Our books are balanced every month. We even have some money in savings. So why do I feel exactly the same way I felt before? Why do I still think about money constantly? Why am I always worried there won’t be enough? Why can’t I just enjoy what I have?"

I can’t say I’ve totally answered this question. It’s a quest I’m on. I journal about this question a lot. I am trying to get to the root of my thoughts, feelings, behaviours, and associations around money. As a holistic health coach, I feel strongly that addressing money and finances in your life is a prerequisite to overall balance and life satisfaction. Delving into some of your barriers to financial abundance or security can connect to so many deeper issues and beliefs. Money is a powerful tool, and those who learn to master their relationship to it will see abundance and joy in other areas of their lives as well.